love and marriage

Though love and marriage are two completely different definitions in anthropology, in most countries, people choose to get married because the couple loves each other rather than any other reason. However, in India and other countries on the world, the love marriage is forbidden and arranged marriage is the common form. Parents usually think their children lack of experience and are not able to figure out who is the right one to spend the rest of life with. Even in love-marriage societies, parents may sometimes concerns their children’s choice of spouse, therefore, it is quite understandable since the parents love their kids. But in India, marriage is not only about individuals, but also is related to political and human rights revolutions.

In recent decades, youth has begun fighting for the freedom of love-marriage. But “Love politics generate conflict over gender and intergenerational relations, between tradition and modernity.” Parents and their kids have different opinions and the thoughts represent the characteristics of the society they are living in and old school will always doubt new generation. In addition, since there is religious conflict in India, religion plays an important role in love-marriage. Some argues that love jihad helps to intensify a public construction of new forms of Muslim terrorism.

But why conflict happens in some circumstances is probably because people can not obtain human rights they need in a peaceful way so in order to guarantee the rights they are caring about, they have to fight with the power who prohibits them doing so. In a word, “love has become both a symbolic and real source of contestation.”

All should be aware of that the society is changing so the best way to solve the problem is negotiation and cooperation instead of fighting, especially in the unstable nation such as India. Development will be a long process.