Where’s My Mr. Right?

In China, there is a group of people called “shengnv” , which specially targeting those women who are well educated and successful in their career. In recent years, it becomes hard for these China’s leftover women to get married in China. And some of them even get started to looking for love abroad.

Most of these women are in their late-20 or even older. A woman in America with the same condition probably won’t have to worry about marriage. Then why it’s so hard for “shengnv” to find a Mr. Right? Follow down there is a chart that easily explains the situation. (Hint: “男” means male and “女” means female.)


“A” to “D” means the class of males’ and females’ quality such as the education and payment (from high to low). Just like this picture, in Chinese conventional thinking, males ought to have high status than his wife. In Chinese culture, husband is responsible to raise his family by working and earning money. Therefore, his wife doesn’t need to be stronger or more successful than her husband. We call this Chinese—style chauvinism or Big-Man-ism, which values men more than women.


Under this culture, it is hard for these Chinese women to find a man who has better condition than them. Meanwhile, they are under big pressure to tie the knot by their parents and relatives. In China, parents will be anxious if their daughters don’t get married before 30, and parents will schedule speed and blind dates for their daughters. According to the China Youth Daily, a survey suggests, “89 per cent of young singletons are forced to go on dates during Lunar New Year holiday, 61 per cent of whom are aged between 25 and 30 years old.” However, these dates don’t go very well on these well-educated women. Faye Yang, A pretty 29-year-old university professor says, “over 60 per cent of dating males reject me when they discover I have a PhD degree.”


Yeung, Isobel. “A Good Man Is Hard to Find: China’s ‘leftover Women’ Look for Love Abroad.” South China Morning Post. N.p., n.d. Web. 02 May 2014.